If there are many children who will make noise but certain things we need to be concerned about for egs if child is stealing or using drugs,sometimes the child gets very angry,wants to take revenge,then breaks things around and also hits parents,or extreme moody child stays away from religion, and parents consider them to be hopeless cases.such a child locks himself in the bathroom,some young children sleep thru the day and watch porn in the night ,the parents have no clue as they are sleeping but the child is getting afflicted with such a disease of watching filth thru the night,such a child who does not communicate at all,then it becomes difficult to reform the child.
So before disciplining the child we need to take care of certain things,for egs Sometimes a person easily gets influenced by others.how we perceive things sometimes we see but we should not believe,for egs Dr Farhat narrated an incident that had occurred the same windy morning ,when she noticed that a light, plastic chair flew into the swimming pool,as it was very windy.So the watchman tried to pull the chair from the pool,at this instance someone else walked in and imagined that the watchman was washing the chairs in the pool water! SubhanAllah :-D ! So the moral of the story is not to always believe what we see,we should analyze also,trust our child also.Īlways give benefit of doubt to ur child,Listen to what your child has to say.always reform yourself ,it is not always that parents are correct,they can be wrong too. Sometimes we have used all the methods by being nice ,giving gift but still the correction is not made,the child does not improve then remember that guidance comes only from Allah.only when Allah wills the person will be guided.remember Prophet Nuh ale salaam's three sons obeyed him but one son was under peer pressure and he did not obey Nuh ale salaam. We should not exaggerate anything beyound what is required whether it is good or bad.it won't help anyone,always be moderate in your dealing. If your child does not do the job he was meant to then don't take them out for drive, as they did not do what they were supposed to,or take away the liberty which was given,so temporarily take it away,then when the child has done something good then return it back.Īlways be descriptive in your explaining to the child,so it becomes clear for the child as to what he did wrong.so clearly discuss the problems openly and find the solutions with mutual agreement.if you just scream and bang the door behind you the child will never understand what went wrong.įor egs if you asked the child not to wear a particular dress/outfit then after you have disciplined the child, don't ruin the whole day on the same problem ,don't hold grudges against the child, the child will forget this issue the moment he steps out of the house,but if you nag the child with the same issue when he returns,he will learn this bad habit of keeping grudges!
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Then we learnt on tips on how to enhance their skills, how to praise ,remind and inculcate obedience in them, how to tell them what you aspire for the child, then let the child utter what you aim for her, then remind with praise and reinforce the same,the parent should not forget the principles they have been instilled in the child.also teaching children how to have good manners,so we as parents need to check themselves that we are not taunting and teasing and unknowingly we are responsible for the child developing a bad habit.ĭon't just see what they don't do but also check appreciate what they do.Ī child may forget at times get slack so we should remind them.also ignore certain mistakes at times,some cases of children may be difficult.especially when the child shouts back at parents ,this is as a result of them watching the parents behaviour.so first of all we need to remember we are Muslims where elders are respected and Consideration given to young,if we as mothers are being disrespective towards parents, inlaws the child will repay you with the same.also make rules in house how should be the manners be, the way to talk at home, no one screams at home, no one uses bad words,no one walks thumping feet in the house,this rule should be across the board not just for one child. Today is the last lecture from the series.whatever principles we have learnt we will recap it and some other imp points.we will learn today,how to use all the principles together,we have learnt twelve diff rules to become successful parents.
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